Landers, A. (1988, October 2). A runaway’s warning signals. Boston Globe.

 

OVERVIEW

Ann Landers claims that nearly one and a half million children run away from home every year. What are the warning signals for runaways? The National Network of Runaway and Youth Services provides the following signals:

Growing isolation. The child avoids family gatherings (even meals) and spends more and more time alone in his or her room.

Excessive blowups. Tantrums are common to turbulent teenagers, but watch out for situations where the smallest thing triggers an explosion.

Abrupt mood swings. Take note if a normally sunny teenager turns sullen, withdrawn, angry, or even manic, without any warning.

Increased violations. Rules are boundaries that growing youths must step outside in the process of maturing. But take heed when ‘border incidents’ turn into serious rebellion.

Increased sleeping. It is normal for teenagers to sleep more than parents think is necessary. Beware when inordinate amounts of time are spent in bed. It could mean the child is in a depression or facing problems he or she cannot manage.

Diminished communication. There may be a perfectly good reason why a child is silent. But if you cannot think of one, and it persists, pay attention.

School troubles. Plunging grades, truancy, class-cutting, disciplinary problems, and fallout with close friends can be cries for help.

Parental stack-blowing. Is the parent, not the child, getting unreasonably upset over small issues? The parent’s feelings may be trying to tell him or her something.

Family crisis. Death, divorce, loss of job, a major move—any of these can disrupt a family and send a child into despair.

Unexplained money or possessions. Even if not stolen, they may be stashed for an impending get-away.

 

IMPLICATIONS

1. Warning signals are helpful, but remember that two or three need to be present to bring concern.
2. Almost always, the runaway is running from—not to—something. If what he or she is running from can be determined, a great deal of misery on all sides may be avoided.
3. Life today can be quite overwhelming to any individual, especially a young person. Spend time with young people and be sensitive to their concerns and fears. Help them to feel confident enough to handle their challenges. If they are having difficulties, provide the support they need to get through the tough times. This builds self-esteem and courage.

Anne Montague cCYS