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Big Brothers Big Sisters of America 
North 13th St., Philadelphia, PA 19107  
are "the oldest mentoring organization serving youth in the U.S. Our work is as elementary as putting a friend in a child’s life, and as essential as putting hope into a child’s future."

Boy Scouts of America (BSA)
National Office: 1325 West Walnut Hill Lane, P.O. Box 152079, Irving, TX 75015-2079


Dean Borgman cCYS



Bissinger, H.G. (1990). Friday night lights: A town, a team, and a dream. HarperCollins.
You should know about the jock and football subculture and about Friday night football games in much of America. You will become interested in Odessa, West Texas and get caught up in the excitement of the Permian Panthers—and some of the best high school football in the country. And you will ask yourself about the cost. There is also a powerful section on the exploitation of black athletes from Dallas, and how their lives were shattered. A B-movie, "Varsity Blues" was made from this story.

Garbarino, J. (1999). Lost boys: Why our sons turn violent and how we can save them. New York City: The Free Press. In my opinion, Garbarino is the expert on violence and troubled youth. I would recommend this as the best single book on why boys have become so violent in our society and what we can do to help them and save our society.


Gurian, M. (1996). The wonder of boys: What parents, mentors and educators can do to shape boys into exceptional men. New York: G.P. Putnam & Sons. A fresh look at boys and how they are generally different from girls. This is especially important in understanding boyish aggression.

Gurian, M. (1998). A fine young man: What parents, mentors and educators can do to shape adolescent boys into exceptional men. New York: Putnam. Further insights into the inner lives of boys with step-by-step advice to those who care enough to enter their private worlds.


Kindlon, D. & Thompson, M. (1999). Raising Cain: Protecting the emotional life of boys. Ballantine Books. Another glimpse into the inner lives of boys with practical suggestions as to how to stay tuned and help them develop their autonomy with "emotional literacy."

Lefkowitz, B. (1998). Our guys: The glen ridge rape and the secret life of the perfect suburb. New York: Vintage Books. How could the most popular boys in town rape a retarded girl they had known since kindergarten? How could a town deny and defend them and turn on the victim? What would you have done as a youth worker in this town? We should all grapple with this story.




Pollack, W. (1998). Real boys: Rescuing our sons from the myths of boyhood. New York: Random House. It is not just girls who have problems in our society. This author shows boys suffering even more. Though he doesn’t agree with Gurian on all points, together they will give you a good read on boys’ development.

Silverstein, O. & Rashbaum, B. (1994). The courage to raise good men. Viking Press. Note the date; this book is one of the first in the rash of books about boys—following those on girls. The authors anticipate the emphasis of later writers to break the codes of manhood and raise boys who exude "empathy, love, and connection."




Sommers, C.H. (2000). The war against boys: How misguided feminism is harming our young men. Simon & Schuster. This book is meant to be a stiff antidote for feminism as found in Carol Gilligan, Mary Pipher and William Pollack. These experts sold the media and public on the notion that ours is a male-dominated culture harming girls, but their research appears flawed. Boys still get the short end of the stick and are in much graver danger of suicide, homicide and permanent damage.

Thompson, M. (2000). Speaking of Boys: Answers to the most-asked questions about raising sons. New York: Ballantine Books. Co-author of Raising Cain, which championed the emotional life of boys, here provides parents and others with practical and very useful advice—along with the sense that they/we are not alone in our communication frustrations. This advice is delivered in sections: "nature of boys," "mothers and sons," "fathers and sons," "siblings," "divorce," "friendship," "girls, love, and sexuality." There even a chapter for teachers—which would help youth workers.