Am I a Sex Addict?

This test was developed by Jason Graves, M. MFT. He also recommends the following books: Sex, Men, and God; The Final Freedom; and 101 Freedom Exercises. For more help and information, visit his website www.healingforthesoul.org or call 1-877-590-SOUL.

1. Have you engaged in sexual behaviors that you wish you could stop?
2. Do you feel abnormally driven by your sexual drive?
3. Have you been in relationships just for sex?
4. Has masturbation been ongoing even after marriage?
5. Have you continued to use pornography after entering a long term committed sexual relationship?
6. Does your sexuality seem to be dragging down your personal potential?
7. Do you find that you spend a significant amount of time viewing pornography or grooming others for sexual encounters?
8. Have you experienced an unwanted sexual encounter during childhood or adolescence?
9. Has monogamous sex grown to be boring?

To score yourself give yourself one point for each yes and read the recommendations below

• 1-3 points: It does not seem that you are presently an active sexual addict. If your concern continues, we recommend that you get more information from the recommended books (www.safefamilies.org/books.php), media (www.safefamilies.org/media.php), and organization links (www.safefamilies.org/links.php) on the Safe Families site.
• 4-6 points: It seems that you may be struggling in the area of sexual addiction. Your first step would be to gather further information. Get books from our recommendations at www.safefamilies.org/books.php. If you want more practical techniques for your behavior, listen to and view our webcast "Overcoming Temptation" at http://safefamilies.org/webcasts/temptation/index.html. If your behavior continues, consider going to a 12 Step Support group (www.safefamilies.org/12steps.php). If you feel that you need to discuss this with a therapist, call Jayson Graves, M. MFT, for a telephone appointment at (719) 590-SOUL (7685) or go to www.safefamilies.org/pastorindividualstep7.php for counseling resources.
• 7-9 points: You are probably sexually addicted. It's recommended that you: a) Gather more information from our recommended books page, www.safefamilies.org/books.php. b) Start going to a recovery group (more info at www.safefamilies.org/pastorindividualstep6.php). c) Seek professional help; go to www.safefamilies.org/pastorindividualstep7.php for counseling resources.