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Bil Mooney-McCoy: Online Safety Webcast

This call will teach the “How and Why?” of Online Safety, especially how to set up online safety for Christian Community Computer Centers.  PowerPoint    

Bil Mooney-McCoy: Overcoming Sexual Temptation Workshop

SafeFamilies' Director, Bil Mooney-McCoy, presents his workshop on overcoming sexual temptation.

Blazing Grace Radio Show: April 27,2009 Michael Genung Interview

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Healing for Wives Who've Been Hurt

 

 Healing for Wives Who've Been Hurt
 From Adultery or Porn Addiction

 

 by Mike Genung

 
A few years back, I asked my wife to write me a letter describing how my struggle with sex addiction affected her. The following is her letter:

Tom Buford: Riding a Dead Horse : Carousel to Hell

Author: Tom Buford
Publisher: Fires of Darkness/Tommera Press (2001)
Binding: Paperback, 152 pages
Review: Riding a Dead Horse: Carousel to Hell is the true story of one man's torturous journey to the bottom of the pit that his pornography addiction dug for him, and the miraculous touch from God that lifted him out of that pit. Written with rare candidness, it is a story of hope for anyone who struggles with pornography addiction or its effects on their families.

Steve Gallagher, Kathy Gallagher: Create in Me a Pure Heart

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Author: Steve and Kathy Gallagher
Publisher: Pure Life Ministries (2007)
Binding: Paperback, 272 pages
Review: She who gives herself to wanton pleasure, observed the Apostle Paul, is dead even while she lives. These ominous words perfectly articulate the living hell in which many Christian women are currently living. At first glance, one might think that there are only a few women involved in sexual sin scattered throughout the Body of Christ. But statistics penetrates much deeper than anybody might have imagined. For instance, experts believe that 17% of Christian women are addicted to some form of sexual sin. Internet professionals claim that women account for 28% of all visitors to pornographic websites. The truth is, Christian women are not only becoming increasingly involved in traditional forms of sexual sin such as fornication and adultery, but they are now branching out into new activities such as lesbianism and cybersex. According to a recent report by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 11% of women surveyed have had a sexual experience with another woman, compared with only 4% of women in a similar 1992 survey. Clearly, sexual sin is no longer only a mans dilemma. However, the root causes for sexual sin differ between the sexes. While men are apt to be aroused visually, women tend to become stimulated through their emotions. Women almost always attach emotions to their sexual activity. Very few women can become intimate with a man without some kind of emotional bond being in place. It has been said that men give love to receive sex in return, while women give sex to receive love in return. This desire for an emotional connection with another person is one of the primary motivations for women who become involved in sexual sin. Another contributing factor can be the craving for male attention. The recent explosion in popularity of cosmetic surgery is evidence of a growing trend among women to be considered sexually desirable. Other women become promiscuous as a result of indulging themselves in romantic fantasies. The huge numbers of women viewing soap operas and reading romance novels are a telltale sign of how this fantasy life has entrenched itself in female America. Many of these women become so fixated on the hope of finding Prince Charming that they end up having sex or committing adultery with multiple men. Moreover, this trend is not limited to adult women. Young girls are being reared in a culture which continually pushes promiscuity. Girls learn early on that the primary source of their value as a human being comes by way of their looks and sexiness and act provocatively. Teen icons, such as Britney Spears, teach young girls to think sensually, dress seductively and act provocatively. Fashion designers market sexy lines of clothing with risqu ads. Television producers teach girls to associate free, unrestrained sexual expression with success, happiness, power, and love. Considering all of these growing trends, it is little wonder that sexual sin has dramatically increased within the female population of the United States. What then is the answer for these struggling women? True Christianity has always provided both a clearcut path to victory over sin, and a life of fulfillment. Create in Me a Pure Heart offers candid wisdom, sensitive counsel and unvarnished truth. It instantly connects with the heart of every struggling woman, affirming that there is freedom from the shame of sexual sin and a path to purity even in the midst of our sexualized culture. Packed with sound biblical truth and the Godgiven answer to overcoming habitual sin, every chapter breathes hope to the reader. Steve Gallaghers bestselling book, At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry, has helped thousands of men overcome sexual sin. Create in Me a Pure Heart extends this liberating legacy to struggling women.

The Road to Grace; Finding True Freedom from the Bondage of Sexual Addiction

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Author: Mike Genung
Publisher: Blazing Grace Publishing (2006)
Binding: Paperback, 249 pages
Review: Empty. Corrupted. Tormented. Starved. These words describe the Christian sex addict. No matter what he (or she) does, he will not experience true freedom from the bondage of sexual addiction until he finds the life, love and acceptance he yearns for. The inner pull to feed at the garbage can of lust must be replaced with something real, alive and lasting... something so wonderful that the short-lived pleasure of sex is nothing in comparison... a love so powerful it overflows even the hardest heart with joy. The Road to Grace begins by providing the reader with the tools needed to break free from the bondage to sexual sin with a straight-forward, Biblical approach. But this is just the beginning of the journey, as gaining true freedom from lust is about much more than learning to control external acts. The Road to Grace delves into the wounds and lies in the heart that block the reader from receiving God's love, and then guides him to the place where he can accept the free gift of the abundant life in Christ that many yearn for but few believe they can have. Topics addressed include: * Biblical methods for overcoming sexual temptation. * Finding healing from shame. * How to stop a masturbation habit. * Facing and dealing with the core issues of the heart that drive sexual addiction. * Healing for sexual abuse and father wound issues. * Understanding and accepting the grace of God in the heart. * Healing for the wives of husbands who are sex addicts. * How to restore a marriage that s been scarred by sexual addiction/adultery.

MySpace for Moms and Dads: A Guide to Understanding the Risks and the Rewards

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Author: Connie Neal
Publisher: Zondervan (2007)
Binding: Paperback, 213 pages
Review: Moms and dads--here it is at last! A quick, sweeping overview of MySpace: what it is, how it works, and why it is so important to your teen. You'll find out how to address important issues with your teen in a way that strengthens your relationship and resolves conflicts. Whether you're computer illiterate or a seasoned web surfer, MySpace for Moms and Dads will help you understand the social networking revolution and equip you to make smart, confident decisions about your son's or daughter's use of MySpace and sites like it. Learn how to minimize the risks of MySpace and bring out its benefits and positive opportunities. You can not only ensure that your teen uses MySpace safely, but also use MySpace yourself to gain a window into your teen's world. Find out how to tailor your teen's use of MySpace to his or her present maturity level--and deepen your appreciation of the unique individual your son or daughter is in the bargain. Includes complete glossary, discussion starters, fun quizzes, negotiation helps for you and your teen, and resources with complete contact information including non-web and web addresses.

Marsha Means: Living with Your Husbands Secret Wars

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Author: Marsha Means
Publisher: Revell (1999)
Binding: Paperback, 224 pages
Review: When a woman discovers her husband is involved in sexual sin (whether its the sin of lust, pornography, infidelity, or some other behavior) pain whips through her like a tornado. Yet in the midst of incredible hurt, she can find Gods healing with help from Living with Your Husbands Secret Wars. Written by Marsha Means, who along with her husband works with couples coping with sexual sin, this book offers specific, proactive steps readers can take in their journey toward wholeness. Theyll learn how to find the support they need, grieve the losses of sexual betrayal, focus on their own spiritual growth, and move toward forgiveness and moving on - whatever the outcome of their marriage. Filled with resources and study questions to encourage readers growth, Living with Your Husbands Secret Wars is an excellent guidebook that will give strength to women who are struggling with their mates sexual entanglements.

Ted Roberts: Pure Desire: Helping People Break Free from Sexual Struggles

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Author: Ted Roberts
Publisher: Gospel Light Publications (1999)
Binding: Paperback, 300 pages
Review: Dr. Ted Roberts found Christ in the skies over Vietnam, where he flew life-and-death missions as a Marine fighter pilot. Unbeknownst to his wife, however, he also brought home from the war an addiction to pornography. Since his recovery, Dr. Roberts has spoken to thousands of men about similar problems, and he has reached an inescapable conclusion: Hell is using sexual bondage to tear the Church apart! Our world, our homes, our churches have become raging battlefields over this issue, and the Internet a stealth bomber from hell with pornography as its payload. More and more men-even Christian leaders-are fighting for their spiritual lives. Now churches can counterattack the enemy's assault with this effective battle plan and strategy for dealing with sexual addiction. It's a matter of spiritual life or death.

Douglas Weiss: She Has a Secret: Understanding Female Sexual Addiction

Author: Douglas Weiss
Publisher: Discovery Press (TX) (2000)
Binding: Paperback, 230 pages
Review: This study of female sexual addiction outlines the path and similarities of male and female sexual addiction. It guides a woman on a known path to recovery.

Laurie Hall: An Affair of the Mind

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Author: Laurie Hall
Publisher: Focus on the Family Publishing (1998)
Binding: Paperback, 288 pages
Review: Laurie Hall's story reveals pornography's subversive side and offers comfort, encouragement, insight, and a plan of action to women whose husbands are addicted.
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