Help for Ex-offenders looking for Jobs: Body Language

When looking for employment,  the message that our bodies send is just as important as the words we use.

The person that shows that he not only has the skills to get the job done, but can fit in with the people that are already there and presents a positive attitude will get the job.  You must understand that companies do not hire people.  People hire people.  The person that hires you must like you as a person.  I’m not saying that if the interviewer likes you, you will get the job.  I am saying if he doesn’t like you, you have no chance.  You have a criminal record.  Being friendly will make the interviewer focus on your charm instead of your record!  You must be confident, friendly and likeable to get hired.

Your answers to questions will only part of what the interviewer will be paying attention to.  Your body language tells more about you than what you say.  Pay attention to the messages that your body sends.

Smile

Your smile is your most powerful body language tool.  For many  ex-offenders smiling is difficult.  Some believe that smiling is a form of weakness.  You must rid yourself of that attitude if you are serious about getting hired.  Your smile will open doors for you.  When we smile at others it sends a message of trust and sincerity.  I’ve heard things like “I don’t like to smile” or “I have nothing to smile about.”  That type of attitude will keep you unemployed.  If you do not smile easily, I suggest you practice until it comes naturally to you. 

Posture

Your posture will make you look confident and professional.  When you stand and walk, make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are back, and your chin is up.  When sitting, make sure your feet are flat on the floor, your back is straight, and your hands are on your lap.  If you have a portfolio or notepad, hold it on your lap.  Never fold your arms across your chest.  It sends a message that you are defensive.  Keeping your hands on your lap will keep you from doing annoying things with your hands.  

Eye Contact

Positive eye contact is important if you want to send a message that you are honest and sincere.  Those who have difficulty making eye contact when speaking or when spoken to make people uncomfortable and appear untrustworthy.

If you have difficulty looking people in the eye, try looking at the bridge of the other person’s nose.  Eye contact is very important in establishing trust, but do not stare.  It is o.k. to occasionally look away, just be sure that you have that all important eye contact when either one of you are speaking.

Handshake

The first impression of you is often formed when you shake hands.  A firm handshake communicates self confidence.  You always want to offer your hand when meeting people.  This applies to men and women.  Always wait for the interviewer to offer his or her hand first.

Be sure to meet the interviewer with a firm grip.  A grip that is limp or weak leaves an impression of a weak character.  A grip that is too strong says that the person is insecure or has something to prove.  If your palms sweat, wipe them off before shaking hands.

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