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My Sisters In Christ.......Are we......Passing the Truth...on to our girls.....?

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Passing the Truth.....

Day in and day out, I pass the younger versions of ourselves, trying to create an identity out of looking like the latest fashion icon (within their financial portfolio), behaving in the manner of whoever the "It Girl" is at this current moment.  And striving to be known for being themselves while taking on the attributes of whoever is notorious for getting what she wants.

 

 

They have come to rely on the latest joint dropped fashion diva, slash dimepiece, beyonce good, shorty and what assets (physical measurements) she has to offer.  Beauty has become a second and quite possibly third to being seductive, sensual and flirty.  Matter of fact, if you polled most of our girls today, their concern would not be the condition of their heart, but how they could achieve their goals of being famous, having lots of cake and a body that causes men to scream.

We have deceived our girls into believing that their womanhood is measured by how sexually appealing they are, their professional success and material possessions, not so much by our words, but our actions.  We ourselves, (okay, not all of us, but most of us) bought this lie and find as we continue in years that this cannot be the priority that guides us.  But do we go share the truth, that brought us to our knees when we have ourselves have accepted this horrible, but necessary truth?....All to often, we continue the lie, or even at worse sit silently, while we watch our girls fight to obtain the very thing that at some point will consume them, confuse them and eventually refuse them.

Afterall, wearing gold don't make you gold....Does it really matter to have or to have the appearance of having it all.....when you don't like yourself?  Accessories are just that, additions to something...or in this case... someone.  But when it comes to the true character and nature of yourself, can you see the beauty that dwells within you?  And can you convey that through the expression of your daily life?

Now be honest, if we are told we have nice legs, immediately, how be it subconciously, we begin buying and wearing that which shows our legs off.  

Don't we want for ourselves and our girls to have an appeal that is derived from the goodness of heart?  Years down the road, we would rather be known for our accomplishments, in our Houses of Worship, in the community and/or workplace, not for being a good lay.  Or causing some male to become sexually stimulated by our appearance.  No one is coming to visit you in the nursing home when you are 90 years old, because you had a nice butt when you were 17.

We have bought the leis of the media, fashion, etertainment and marketing industries and we have passed this on to our girls.  At some point, we must begin sharing the simple Biblical truths with our girls, out of our love for them, ourselves and our adoration for our God.  Not in a know it all, let me tell you somethin' child.....attitude....But out of a common place we all exist ....but often neglect....the beauty and grace God, our Heavenly Father created us in.

My Sisters, let's explore the Word of God and embrace a movement...to give Zoe (life) to our girls...and quite possibly, they will avoid some, maybe not all, but some choice that could rob them of the very beauty God created them in.

Passing the Truth

The most vociferous promoters of female sexuality aren't males but females and many of these are teachers who take a perverse delight in undermining the little influence a father has over his children.I loved my children dearly. I was a little too passive and let the women in my life listen to things they shouldn't . I believed that because the promoters of this nonsense were women that they may have known more than I did.. After all if we rant too loudly we are violent ogres. If we protest too softly we are wooses. In this day and age it is easy to get confused. To the thoughtful among us it is essential that women realize the real nature of sexuality and act appropriately. Firstly sex is a privilege not a right. It is the gateway to the privilege of sharing the life of another human being made in the image of God AWESOME! Secondly as a co-sharer in the life of another we are obliged to consider the needs of that person above our own. Children should believe that the life they are born into is the most precious thing there is not something that can be trashed at the whim of another. Thirdly we must show our respect for this life by investing in it selflessly. By this I mean demonstrating qualities of optimism wisdom humor and good husbandry. This tells our children that we value the substance of our life and those with whom we share it. Fourthly while the battle of the sexes rages and both sides battle for the favors of the other, little children become vulnerable to predators in their search for individual significance. They grow into adolescants convinced of the shallowness of the human condition and the bright lights of the here and now. Sexual partners have no value other than to fill the need of the one night stand. Fifthly God's word says that Man is made in the image of God. Therefore we all should find something to revere about those with whom we share this life

Just a Man

Response from Anonymous

I found your comments interesting, but somehow whatever you have gone through seem to overshadow the purpose and theme of the post. I stated in the blog, WE (meaning women were responsible for the delusions of what being a beautiful women) I am not however, certain that every situation involves the mother and/or female guardian tearing down the position of grace and authority that a Father is given. I was blessed to grow up with a Dad who was consisted in his love, fussed over his girls (3 biological and 1 niece) and we were always told collectively and individually how beautiful we were. We were treated respectfully and expected to behave respectfully. We were his ladies and still are today (He passed in 1986). We were not perfect, but as we have aged we have come closer to who are Father raised us to be and who are Heavenly Father created us to be. Having worked with girls (mostly at risk) now for over 15 years, I can assure you most of the "issues" stem from their lack of relationship with their father or a unhealthy relationship. And yes, there have been times when I have had to reintroduce a young lady into building a relationship with her Dad, based on love and not getting him to drive her somewhere, give her money or sign something. Whether your daughters know it or not, they are very blessed to have you. A young lady who has a father who is concerned about her and affirming her and she receives it, will not fall prey to many of the secular games being played on their Godly and ladylike character.