Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 06/20/2008 - 02:20.
I've been married for a few years. Initially my wife and I had sex fairly often, but she never enjoyed intercourse. She said it was too painful. So we did other stuff that satisfied each other. As the years have gone by, I have really started to long to have intercourse as I feel it is an amazing way for husband and wife to connect. Before our baby was born we only had intercourse maybe once a month, then when we wanted a child, suddenly my wife was keen and we had intercourse often, maybe 3 times a week. I felt a bit betrayed. I tried to deal with it through prayer etc. Since our baby has been born (1 year ago), we've only had intercourse 3 times. She satisfies me physically when I feel the urge, but this is not satisfying me in my heart. It seems she avoids intercourse still, but won't say if there is a reason why. I am a visually stimulated person, as most guys are, and I have tried to ask her to take this into account, by dressing sexy for me etc. Because of the lack of sexual fulfillment, I have been so tempted to look at pictures of other women on the internet, albeit, just bikini models, as in my mind I know it is wrong to look at naked women, but lust is lust. So I wandered if as an alternative, if its fine to look at naked pictures of my wife and masturbate. I get so horny sometimes, to put it bluntly and I hate having to ask her all the time to please do something about it. I can sense her reluctance sometimes. Besides this issue, which is a big one, we really love each other, and we have an awesome daughter. Sometimes I say to myself, if having a daughter meant that my sex life would die, then its worth it cause she is worth it, but i need a healthy marriage too and a healthy sex life is part of it. I have tried getting her good Christian books on sex and suggesting that she chat to someone, or we go for counselling. Is this a common problem. It is foollish to believe the lies about sex on movies, that it is always explosive and fulfilling and spontaneous, but surely there is some truth to it. Surely God meant it to be really good. I don't really know what to do about it and until she agrees to go for couselling with me, I have to get advice for myself, so please help if you can.
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I've been married for a few years. Initially my wife and I had sex fairly often, but she never enjoyed intercourse. She said it was too painful. So we did other stuff that satisfied each other. As the years have gone by, I have really started to long to have intercourse as I feel it is an amazing way for husband and wife to connect. Before our baby was born we only had intercourse maybe once a month, then when we wanted a child, suddenly my wife was keen and we had intercourse often, maybe 3 times a week. I felt a bit betrayed. I tried to deal with it through prayer etc. Since our baby has been born (1 year ago), we've only had intercourse 3 times. She satisfies me physically when I feel the urge, but this is not satisfying me in my heart. It seems she avoids intercourse still, but won't say if there is a reason why. I am a visually stimulated person, as most guys are, and I have tried to ask her to take this into account, by dressing sexy for me etc. Because of the lack of sexual fulfillment, I have been so tempted to look at pictures of other women on the internet, albeit, just bikini models, as in my mind I know it is wrong to look at naked women, but lust is lust. So I wandered if as an alternative, if its fine to look at naked pictures of my wife and masturbate. I get so horny sometimes, to put it bluntly and I hate having to ask her all the time to please do something about it. I can sense her reluctance sometimes. Besides this issue, which is a big one, we really love each other, and we have an awesome daughter. Sometimes I say to myself, if having a daughter meant that my sex life would die, then its worth it cause she is worth it, but i need a healthy marriage too and a healthy sex life is part of it. I have tried getting her good Christian books on sex and suggesting that she chat to someone, or we go for counselling. Is this a common problem. It is foollish to believe the lies about sex on movies, that it is always explosive and fulfilling and spontaneous, but surely there is some truth to it. Surely God meant it to be really good. I don't really know what to do about it and until she agrees to go for couselling with me, I have to get advice for myself, so please help if you can.