What Is Sex Addiction?
What is sex addiction ?
by Mike Genung
1. Sex addiction is freely chosen sin. The person who gets caught in the snare of sex addiction has intentionally chosen to indulge in lust or sexual immorality. No one forces the struggler with sex addiction to repeatedly drink from the the well of lust. Any sex outside of a marriage with one man and one woman is sin, as is lust in the heart.
2. Sex addiction is slavery to the obsessions and compulsions of lust. Porn and sexual immorality hollow out the soul; the more one engages with porn and self sex the emptier they become. In time Lust becomes an obsession that turns the struggler with sex addiction into a desperate fool for the ultimate fantasy or sexual experience. While it promises life, Lust always leaves its victim empty, miserable and full of shame.
3. Sex addiction is a false coping mechanism. The struggler with lust uses sexual fantasy to cope with the demands of real life; when situations don't go his way he turns to sex for comfort and escape. Lust provides neither comfort or escape, and it makes life worse by piling on more shame, misery and emptiness.
4. Sex addiction is false love. Deep in his heart the struggler with sex addiction believes he can't be loved as he is, so he turns to lust for love, comfort and approval.
5. Sex addiction is a sick substitute for God's love. From birth we are all born with the hunger for God; we crave His love, grace, acceptance, joy and peace. The struggler with sex addiction doesn't believe the Living God accepts him so he wears a mask to hide who he is. He may know the theology of grace, but the struggler with sex addiction has never accepted the gift of God's grace in his heart. His actions are proof of this, for what we do reveals what we believe.
6. Sex addiction is spiritual, emotional and psychological poison. It hollows out a man's soul and turns him into a ragged, desperate fool. It destroys men, women and children; marriages and families. Lust rots churches from the inside out, and as we know from history it can destroy a nation.
7. Sex addiction is idol worship. The man or woman who bows to the false god of lust is making it their object of worship, their source of life. That which we worship becomes our master.
A Christian sex addict is someone who tries to have the false comfort of lust and God's love. Their relationship with the Lord is lukewarm at best.
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Sex Addiction?
a sex addiction is compulsive and excessive. meaning they can't control the urges of sex. for some maybe its a choice.
Sex Addiction
If may i add, people suffering from sex addiction can be emotionally and mentally unstable.Despite their constant pursuit for sexual pleasure they are rarely satisfied from their sexual activities and they have difficulty stablishing any emotional bond w/ their sex partner.
i don't find it right to
i don't find it right to assume that people who have compulsive love or sex addiction issues aren't close to God. we are fallen human beings, regardless of our salvation and love of the Lord. And inexplicable, unresolved trauma in childhood, esp rape WILL be expressed in sick ways either turned internally or outward.
Christ DOES save and can heal someone from this affliction but it doesn't happen overnight. There is trauma to be dealt with. Christ is the ultimate physician and does understand the heart of trauma. Sex is powerful and created to be beautiful and godly. But there are many rape survivors who have never known this and their experience with it is nothing short of shame, terror and the desire to regain control over this kind of experience.
The adult can know they are loved by God but if someone has been traumatized by abandonment, abuse, etc most, if not all of their life.. there are childhood wounds that have not gone away and an inner child that needs to hear that Christ loves them too. It's the child, too often, that takes the wheel, in the life of the adult.. the christian.
Sex-Addiction
Dear Anon, Empty sex is either painful sex because it lacks love or pathetic sex because their is no passion. The true meaning of two people having sex to cope things means that they are pulling themselves backward as well as their partner. This is obviously not a healthy way of life if such a powerful act has become a meaningless one-night-stand or routine rebound. Take time to understand yourself before sharing your soul with others. Once you heal you can focus on achieving a real relationship with meaning, understanding, caring and love (you will know this when all you want is to give everything in you to your love). You have the power of choice, use it wisely. Do not waste your own time. Live out your potential and grow beyond the abuse you suffered. It says in Proverbs (24:16) that the righteous man falls seven times, but then arises. That’s the difference between the righteous person and others. Everybody falls. Everybody fails. Everybody has tragedies and difficulties; everyone makes mistakes and sins (Ecclesiastes 7:20). Nevertheless, the righteous get up while others remain down. The righteos don’t say, “What’s the use? God is unfair. Life is unfair. Let it be.” Its your choice to fall into misery and bad habit. Wishing you success, clarity, happiness, and love :)
well i dont totally agree
IS IT STILL A CHOICE WHEN IT IS A SEXUALLY ABUSED ADOLESCENT TEEN OR ADULT AND WHAT ABOUT THE PEOPLE THAT HAVE BEEN ABUSED PERIOD AND SEX BECOMES A COPING MECHANISM CAUSE THEY DONT KNOW OR THEY HAVENT FOUND A BETTER WAY TO DEAL WITH THE FACT?
We should discuss this topic
We should discuss this topic openly. It will help us to learn about this matter. I have passed nice time with this blog. Thanks for sharing!
This is a very good blog. I
This is a very good blog. I am happy to see this blog. Because the subject of this blog is very sensitive. Every people has sex addiction.
Hi Mike, Really good
Hi Mike, Really good information on sex addiction and their steps. I would like to add my two cents on Compulsive sex behavior, which is displayed in many ways:
- Publically exposing oneself
- Excessive masturbation
- Extramarital affairs
- Sadistic or masochistic sex
- And lot more
Thanks and Keep sharing!
Sex Addiction
Thanks Mike Genung for
Thanks Mike Genung for sharing a nice sex addiction steps.
John Philips
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